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I met a wonderful woman last saturday. Dr. Deborah King. I am reading her book called Truth heals. It is a wonderful book about how our lies can hurt us if not spoken or released. I went to see Dr. King to get help with shame. I was abused sexually as a child from the age of 4. I have spent the last 14 years or so working on recovering from that trauma.
I am actually doing really well in my life now, but I know that my past is still stored in my body. Healing is an ongoing job!Things that were done to me that were to hard to painful are still burried in my body and unconscious. Over the last couple of weeks I have felt a wave of shame come over me again and again, and flashbacks of memories. I am really fortunate that I have a great support system for when I need to reach out or have experiences like this. So I have been processing my feelings. I am ready, I know that I needed to feel these feelings and remember. I have been journaling and doing emotional release work and talking to my little girl or inner child. But I still felt stuck…like I could not get away from this heavy feeling of shame.
I heard an interview with Dr. King last week and knew after listening to her that I needed to see her. You can find this interview online at http://ethicalife.com/showsegment.asp?id=166
What struck a cord with me was what Dr. King said about what happens to children that are abuse young, “pleasure becomes linked with shame” She talkes a bit about shame and explains how unresolved issues are stored in our bodies and can often lead to physical symptoms.
I did get to Dr. Kings workshop that she held in LA on Saturday and it was amazing. She is not only a healer but a wonderful teacher. It has just been a couple of days since the workshop but I still feel great. Just such a sense of relief, like a huge burden has been lifted of my shoulders. I know that reading Dr. Kings book, Truth Heals will help me practice what she teaches at her workshops, focus on being in my body, grounded and do what I can to feel good. Her web site is http://www.truthheals.com/
I have been catching up with myself this last week. I was in Iceland for two weeks working for the organization I represent Blátt áfram or “straight talk”. We pulled off our annual conference with some great speakers from the states. I did share information about this year speakers here on the Prevention page.
It was both rewarding and very inspiring to learn from such knowledgeable people about the issue of child sexual abuse. The good news and yes there are also good news when it comes to the issue of CSA, that researchers are learning more about how to help both survivors and young adults that abuse others. Here is a link to an importance presentation that Robert E. Longo refered to http://www.roblongo.com/ see links and research. Longo shared new approaches in treating young offenders and that some of the old ways of treatment are now being acknowledged as not the best practice. Treatment is turning to more holistic approaces and individualized treatments.
If you would like to learn more about the conference I did an interview (online) where I spoke about the conference. Two of the speakers Robert E. Longo and Shirley Paceley called in and shared from their experience. http://ethicalife.com/showsegment.asp?id=164
